What is your one word for 2019?

This is the sister blog (if that is a thing) to my Perficient Blog (What is the one word that will define success in 2019!)  In that blog, I tied this concept to business strategy and operating model metrics.   However, since Jensen makes fun of me for using business speak in the ‘friends pods’, I thought I would tailor this to be much more personal.

I have definitely been in a transitional phase over the past couple of years, making a significant move from being work-centered to family-centered.   I think this phase was at its peak towards the end of 2016.  Maggie was 2 years-old, and Addie was born that September.   It’s not that I was I was a dead beat dad or husband, but I was still getting used to staying present and focused on the family throughout the evening.  I used to put in a lot of time in the evenings making sure all of my client and firm deliverables were completed to my satisfaction.   I was finding myself gasping at the end of the night when I looked at the clock and realized how tired I was.  Things had changed.

Over that Thanksgiving, I read Angela Duckworth’s book Grit, the Power of Passion and Perseverance.    She talks about how to build grit and the need for an “ultimate concern”, which is a supreme goal that is so meaningful to you that it provides structure and discipline to everything you do.   She described a method for gaining focus by listing 25 goals, circling the top 5 and avoiding all others at all costs, while discovering themes.   Her hierarchical approach of rolling up low level and mid level goals to the ultimate concern really resonated with me. 

At the time, all of my goals and the ultimate concern at the top of my hierarchy ended up bringing out the word ‘engaged’.   I covered my four goal categories in the blog a couple of days ago, Why having fun will be my top work goal in 2019!   I could assess everything that I was doing in every aspect to my life in that moment to the word engaged. The best part is that I could quickly get back on track if I found myself not being present or missing an opportunity if necessary. 

It started off being something to focus me on work/life balance and being engaged with the kids.  But I also found that I was using it to assess if I was engaged with my work, team members, and clients.

I think this approach is way more productive than doing New Year’s resolutions.  So I recommend taking some time to think about it.   Lay out your goals and see what theme surfaces and the one word that sums it up.   There is no right or wrong word, you just have to describe a meaningful word to you. A word that describes how you want to show up every day. Then do it!  Everything else will fall into place.

This year, my word is ‘commitment’.   I’ve signed up to do a lot and I have some ambitious goals.  I’m going to need some serious commitment and discipline to maintain the right balance and get the results that I’m striving to achieve.  I’ll need some help.  It’s important to engage others in this so that they can be in your corner, help you stay focused, and keep you accountable (not to be confused with judging). 

So what will your word be:

• Creativity?
• Kindness?
• Focus?
• Discipline?

You may have one for work, one for your family, or it can all be the same.  But at the end of the day, it’s kind of like the “one thing” that Curly is referencing in the 1991 movie, City Slickers.  It’s your one word.

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